“My basic principle is that you don’t make decisions because they are easy; you don’t make them because they are cheap; you don’t make them because they’re popular; you make them because they’re right.”
Father Theodore Hesburgh
I firmly believe in what Father Hesburgh said, however the trick is to know what is right for you. I think one of the hardest things in life is resisting the temptation to give away our decisions to events or to others. Far too many of us accept promotions or transfers only because they are offered. Often we do so only because we think if someone else wants to promote or move us then it must be the right thing to do since they are recognizing our worth, unfortunately acceptance may be the wrong decision to make.
Sure, when we make a major decision we think about consequences such as: if we move what will happen when we pull the kids out of school or what if we can’t sell the house, and so on. Sadly though few of us spend much time thinking about what impact our decisions will have on our life plan; that is if we even have a life plan. Too often we just take the easy way out and go with the flow. When we limit our decision making to only the short term we stand a good chance of ending up missing a great opportunity to lay the foundation for enriching the rest of our lives.
I spend many hours each week with people who are interested in making a mid-career change. Too often our discussions are limited to what they can do instead of finding out what they would like to do. I get distressed when people miss the opportunity to rethink what they would like out of life by not thinking beyond just what they can do in a job. You would be surprised how few people ever stop to think about what makes them happy. Our happiness is more often than not the result of the things we take for granted and don’t even think about. It may be the pleasure we get from working with others, working in pleasant surroundings, having a variety of tasks, and the other things that make the day enjoyable. And who could forget having access to a good cup of coffee. It is these little things in our everyday life that provide us a platform for happiness.
But of course there is more to a life plan than just the day-to-day pleasures. We need to spend time planning what we can do to make sure our loved ones share our happiness, where we would like to retire, what will do that we can’t do now, and how we can share in the many pleasures that await us. It is when we put the plan together that we will have the best shot at future happiness. For it is when we have a plan that is the result of our really knowing ourselves we can start making the right decisions that will ensure that our lives can be the best we can make them.
When to start? Now! Twenty or seventy it is never too late. Oh and by the way money isn’t everything, it really isn’t.
“The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.”
You know you work in Corporate America if …
1) You’ve sat at the same desk for 4 years and worked for three different companies.
2) Your resume is on a disk in your pocket.
3) When someone asks about what you do for a living, you lie.
4) You get really excited about a 2% pay raise.
5) You learn about your layoff on CNN.
6) Your biggest loss from a system crash is that you lose your best jokes.
7) Your supervisor doesn’t have the ability to do your job.
8) You sit in a cubicle smaller than your bedroom closet.
9) Salaries of the members on the Executive Board are higher than all the Third World countries’ annual budgets combined.
10) It’s dark when you drive to and from work.
11) Fun is when issues are assigned to someone else.
12) "Communication" is something your group is having problems with.
13) You see a good looking person and know it is a visitor.
14) Free food left over from meetings is your main staple diet.
15) Weekends are those days your spouse makes you stay home.
16) Being sick is defined as can’t walk or you’re in the hospital.
17) You’re already late on the assignment you just got.
18) Dilbert cartoons hang outside every cube.
19) Your boss’ favorite lines are "When you get a few minutes", "In your spare time", "When you’re freed up", and "I have an opportunity for you."
20) Your relatives and family describe your job as "works with computers".
"A lawyer is someone who writes an eighty-page document and calls it a brief!"
A friend always seemed to lean slightly to the left. It bothered me, so I suggested that he see a doctor and have his legs checked out. For years, he refused, telling me I was crazy, but last week, he finally went.
Sure enough, the doctor discovered his left leg was a half -inch shorter than his right. A bit of orthopedic surgery later, both legs are exactly the same length now, and he no longer leans.
"So," I said, "you didn’t believe me when I told you a doctor could fix your leg."
He just looked at me and said, "I stand corrected."
When you’re rich, it’s "eccentric"; when you’re poor, it’s just strange.
A frustrated father vented, "When I was a youngster, I was disciplined by being sent to my room without supper. But in my son’s room, he has his own color TV, telephone, computer, and CD player."
"So what do you do?" asked his friend.
"I send him to MY room!" exclaimed the father.
The coffee break, even for those who realize that caffeine may not be good for them, still beats staying at the desk and working.
The headwaiter of an elegant restaurant recoiled in disgust as a man in boots, torn jeans and a leather jacket approached him. "Hey, man," he said, "where’s the bathroom?"
"Go down the hall and turn left," replied the headwaiter, "When you see the sign marked ‘Gentlemen,’ pay no attention to it and go right inside."
To err is human, to moo, bovine.
Mike meets Ed at the bar for a drink after work. Mike really looks down in the dumps.
Ed asks, "Why the long face? Bad day at work?"
"Yeah," replies Mike. "You know sometimes I wish I worked for the Pope instead of my boss."
"Why is that," asks Ed.
Mike sighs and says, "Cause then I would only have to kiss his ring."
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst, for they are sticking to their diets.
Work like you don’t need the money.
Love like you’ve never been hurt.
Dance like nobody’s watching.
Sing like nobody’s listening.
Live like it’s Heaven on Earth.
Decide what you want, decide what you are willing to exchange for it.
Establish your priorities and go to work.
H. L. Hunt
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
Indianapolis, Indiana, USA
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The editor is somewhat senile.