“The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire;
the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way.”
Often, after I have written something for the daily, I tell myself “easy for you to say.” I am generally a big time optimist, I believe we can face adversity, and that we can get over it and put it behind us. I make it sound easy, but I know often it is not.
While I advocate rolling with the punches and pulling yourself up and finding a new beginning I am often reminded how overwhelming disappointment can be. That really hit home today as I learned that one of my grandsons has an injury that may take him out of action for some time. While second opinions, MRI’s, and a formal prognosis has yet to happen the implications of the injury are distressing. You see my grandson is not just a good student and a great son and brother; he is also an outstanding soccer player. He has played in tournaments as far away as Las Vegas and has just recently begun his high schools soccer season. He has been great in the games he has played for his school where he plays the key defensive position and is the team’s playmaker. His defensive play has been fun to watch as he is quick to the ball has some great moves and plays with enthusiasm. He practices year around and plays both club and school soccer. Soccer is the highlight of his young life, and now it may be gone, hopefully for only a season or less, but it might serious enough to last longer.
You and I both know it is not the end of the world and that he has a full life ahead of him. But unlike me at his age, he has something that sets him apart from others, something that makes him special, and now something that may be gone, at least for awhile. I sometimes wonder if those who do little that is really special have it easier since they don’t have that much to loose if things go bad. Fortunately however most people do the best they can and while those who are good at what they do may risk great disappointment the world is a better place because they excel.
So my heart goes out to my grandson. And if his injury is serious I will not tell him that things like, “things happen and to get over it and move on.” What I will tell him is that I understand his pain and that what has made him special still exists inside him and that will carry him on to other victories. But I also know that wounds, especially deep wounds, take time to heal, time when most of us can use a little solace.
“Disappointment to a noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal;
it strengthens tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it.”
THE TEACHER SAYS
1. Your son has a remarkable ability in gathering needed information from his classmates.
Really means: He was caught cheating on a test.
2. Karen is an endless fund of energy and vitability.
Really means: The hyperactive monster can’t stay seated for five minutes.
3. Fantastic imagination! Unmatched in his capacity for blending fact with fiction.
Really means: He’s definitely one of the biggest liars I have ever met.
4. Margie exhibits a casual, relaxed attitude to school, indicating that high expectations don’t intimidate her.
Really means: The lazy thing hasn’t done one assignment all term.
5. Her athletic ability is marvelous. Superior hand-eye coordination.
Really means: The little creep stung me with a rubber band from 15 feet away.
6. Nick thrives on interaction with his peers.
Really means: Your son needs to stop socializing and start working.
7. Your daughter’s greatest asset is her demonstrative public discussions.
Really means: Classroom lawyer! Why is it that every time I explain an assignment she creates a class argument.
8. John enjoys the thrill of engaging challenges with his peers.
Really means: He’s a bully.
9. An adventurous nature lover who rarely misses opportunities to explore new territory.
Really means: Your daughter was caught skipping school at the fishing pond.
10. I am amazed at her tenacity in retaining her youthful personality.
Really means: She’s so immature that we’ve run out of diapers.
11. Unlike some students who hide their emotion, Charles is very expressive and open.
Really means: He must have written the Whiner’s Guide.
12. I firmly believe that her intellectual and emotional progress would be enhanced through a year’s repetition of her learning environment.
Really means: Regretfully, we believe that she is not ready for high school and must repeat the 8th grade.
13. Her exuberant verbosity is awesome.
Really means: A mouth that never stops yacking.
For most men there are three ages of hair: parted, unparted and departed.
Mike and Nancy were married for 40 years and decided they wanted to renew their vows and planned a second wedding.
They were discussing the details with their friends. Nancy wasn’t going to wear a traditional bridal gown and she started describing the dress she was planning to wear. One of her friends asked what color shoes she had to go with the dress. She replied, "Silver."
At that point, her husband chimed in, "Yep silver…to match her hair."
Shooting a glaring look at Mike’s bald spot, Nancy’s friend said, "So, Mike, I guess you are going barefoot."
"If you haven’t got anything nice to say about anybody, come sit next to me."
Alice Roosevelt Longworth
My wife clipped a job listing out of the paper for me. She said it wasn’t much to start out… but a huge pay raise. It read, "Salary: 23k to start. 401k after 1 yr."
A City Policeman went up to a vendor selling toys and said, "I’m sorry, you can’t sell that stuff without a license."
The peddler replied, "I knew I wasn’t selling any, but I didn’t know the reason."
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
At one point during a game, the coach called one of his 7-year-old hockey players aside and asked, "Do you understand what cooperation is? What a team is?"
The little boy nodded in the affirmative.
"Do you understand that what matters is not whether we win or lose, but how we play together as a team?"
The little boy nodded yes.
"So," the coach continued, "I’m sure you know, when a penalty is called, you shouldn’t argue, curse, attack the referee, or call him names. Do you understand all that?"
Again the little boy nodded.
He continued, "And when I call you off the ice so that another boy gets a chance to play, it’s not good sportsmanship to call your coach ‘a dumb ass’, is it?"
Again the little boy nodded.
"Good," said the coach. "Now go over there and explain all that to your mother!!!"
“Disappointment is the nurse of wisdom”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
Indianapolis, Indiana, USA
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